Now this one goes to those sweet souls who suffer because they have sinned or cheated, lied, betrayed your partners, husbands, friends, family and even society and then are forgiven, given a second chance to try to fix things but then they are constantly reminded of what they did, how evil they are, called horrible names, tormented everyday emotionally, psychologically sometimes even physically.
I want to tell you that you are a strong lovely woman or man and you deserve better than what you are getting.
Am not saying what you did was right nor am i encouraging cheating, betrayal, or lies but we all sometimes make mistakes along the way in life and if someone gives you a second chance they should mean it. I know they are going through pain and trying to heal but this was there decision to give you a chance to mend things and if they are still living in the past, am afraid your future is doomed. There is this quote i love “If you don’t leave your past in the past, it will destroy your future. Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away“.
And to those who judge others, all i can tell you is It is easy to judge someone just because their mistake is different from yours. Some even go ahead to condemn others as sinners forgetting that they too have sinned just because maybe their sin was judged differently by the world or never came out in public.
One time, a ‘church girl’ got pregnant out of wedlock and when she came to the pastor to apologize, she said: “I feel like running from church because everyone is judging me and calling me a sinner.”
After a long silence, the pastor told her: “Whoever is judging you has sinned before and is still sinning only because your sin is evident. Just because there is no evidence to show other people’s sin does not mean that they leave a life free of sin.” She came back relieved and stayed in church, gave birth to her child and lived happily ever after.
In relationships, someone will blame another for cheating on their spouse yet they too have sabotaged a friend’s relationship. People can be cruel to others and completely forget that they too are not angels. A girl in my village dated an old man who paid her school fees at university but after graduation, she decided to marry her age mate. In anger, the old man tried to kill her at the wedding.
Everyone was fast to judge the woman, saying maybe she did something despicable but what happens if you fall out of love? Are you supposed to still marry that person just because he helped you in the past? The man is now rotting in prison but what if he had just counted his loss and moved on?
I know someone who gave her tuition money to her university boyfriend because his family had no money, and he was about to drop out. She instead dropped out, they got married but after some years, the man told her that she was not on his level because she was not as educated as he is and therefore, he found someone else who was equally educated. You might call that foolish, but she called it unconditional love then.
Some people have run away from promising relationships only to regret later. Other people call others gold diggers but can even spit if a Taxi driver asks for their number. So, if you do not care about a man’s status, why are you irritated if someone of a lower status asks you out?
Life is a lesson, sometimes we learn from other people’s mistakes but most of the time we learn from our own mistakes. So, when life brings you in front of other people in embarrassing situations, do not be the first to throw a stone. Be slow to judge.
Love and life are a mystery, no one ever gets to tread only the perfect path. If you looked in a mirror, you would know that we are all imperfect and the world could use some more love and support other than pointing fingers every single time. peace and love from my blog.